Anatomy of a Breakthrough Series:
Project: 60 and Smokin’ Hot!
A few months ago I turned 59 and I started to think about where I wanted to be by my 60th birthday, generally a milestone in a person’s life. So I looked at all the different domains of my life, Body, Love and Relationship, Travel, Home, Car, Business Growth/Work, and Projects/Lifestyle and immediately I could see that there was something that I wanted in each of those areas AND that I was somewhat complacent about being able to have that result. Either I had already been trying and not getting there, I felt tired or resigned about actually getting some of these areas to move in reality, and I was afraid I was going to take on too much and not have a breakthrough in any of them, by trying to have a breakthrough in all of them.
However, I remembered from all of my work with different transformational work that if I cause a breakthrough in any area it will allow for breakthroughs in other areas. So I chose one area and got to it. The area was my body and my project is 60 and Smokin’ Hot!
The Project Result to Accomplish: To be the fittest I have ever been in my life and look fantastic in a bikini, (yes, at 60).
Conditions (Where I am starting and the facts): I have had 4 children and I have not seriously worked out for years. I go to yoga when I can, which means 1 a month (or less) or once – twice a week when I am on the east coast. I would go to the gym once or twice a month. I was/am very active in my life so have connected that as my idea of working out – working hard.
Inside my commitment and passion to look and feel great at 60 years old I could see there were actions I was taking that were NOT aligned with that commitment AND I really liked doing them. Drinking wine, eating chocolate, and not going to the gym. I also saw that I was only using one metric to determine how I was doing in the domain of my body and that was fitting into my clothes. If I fit into my tiny jeans then I was in good shape (for having 4 babies and being 59)!
Might all be true, but not good enough to cause a breakthrough. Certainly, for 59, have four kids, and not working out seriously, I do look good. But that is not the result that I want. That is the justification I have used for not getting what I want.
Lastly, I noticed that I had to make room to fail. What would happen if I did not get to that goal? I will have worked hard toward something/a goal and I will have some great results. Will it match exactly, if I do not have a breakthrough? No, probably not… will it be worth it? Absolutely. I know what will happen if I continue how I am… nothing and likely get less in shape as I age… definitely worth it!
So here is the restructure:
I stopped drinking alcohol altogether, for 12 months
I got a trainer and had my measurements done at the gym by a 3rd party (not me!) and put in my chart (I started to measure for results)
I listened to the trainer!
This one was harder than I thought. My trainer said to accomplish my goal in 12 months I should be working out 4x a week and eating 80 grams of protein a day. I laughed out loud, I really thought she was kidding.
She was not kidding. I had to completely re-constitute my thinking about what this was going to take and then commit to it again – If I wanted to have a breakthrough in this area of my life there was a reality to what it was going to take of me daily.
So the real question came down to: How bad do you want it? Do I want it enough to give up time, energy, things I like, and what appeared to be any fun? Did I want it that bad? Well, YES, YES I do!
An added benefit for me is I also get to use the game as a laboratory for the Anatomy of a Breakthrough, which makes it even more fun.
The game is on! I invite you to let me know your goals that you want to have breakthrough in.